"What's the best way to deal with someone who really hurt you and let it go to the point where you can forgive and speak with them again?" This question was posed to a monk from Australia named Ajahn Brahm. I enjoy listening to him on YouTube. He's a joyful man and filled with wisdom. Back to the original question above. This came at a perfect time for me, as I recently experienced a personal hurt. I paraphrased Ajahn Brahm's response below, which really helped me process my particular situation. Being that we're all human, which means we all experience hurt in life, I figured his …
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Be Real, Not Perfect
What does it mean to "be real"? It means to look at "what is" exactly as it is in the moment - not adding to it or skipping over anything. It's about acknowledging your own feelings - exactly as they are. Not the "should" feelings based on what we "think" we should feel given the circumstances. THE REAL FEELINGS. It's only moving through the messiness of life that we expand and can feel our soul...when we feel alive right here, right now. The process doesn't always look like we imagine. In fact, it rarely looks like we imagine. It's okay. Settle into the darkness and the light, …
Human Beings Want to Connect
Have you ever felt starved for a connection with a particular person? I don’t mean a romantic connection. I mean that feeling of being truly seen, heard, loved, and cared for. That feeling of relating where you feel like you can just melt in the comfort of their presence, and they can also melt into yours. But no matter how hard you try, it just doesn’t come together. I’ve felt this. And it feels terrible. Energy draining. Disappointing. I finally did something, as an act of self compassion. I wrote a letter to myself from myself, giving me the exact same interaction I was wishing for …